|Posted by Shannon Biggs-Ross on April 12, 2011 at 4:32 PM|
"Marriage is more than your love for each other. It has a higher dignity and power, for it is God's holy institution through which God wishes to preserve humanity until the end of time. In your love you see only each other in the world; in marriage you are a link in the chain of generations that God, for the sake of His glory, allows to rise and fade away, and calls into His kingdom". Dietrich Bonhoeffer
A couple of months ago Chad and I were able to attend “The Art of Marriage” Conference. This conference is presented by FamilyLife, who also holds the “Weekend to Remember” Conference. I’d like to start off by saying, if this conference is held in your area, please make time to attend. You will not regret it, regardless of how great your marriage is, or if you feel there is no hope left. You will benefit from it.
“The first bond of society is marriage”. ~ Cicero
I will be honest; when I first married Chad I had no clue of the real importance of this relationship in God’s eyes. I wasn’t even completely clear on God’s purpose for marriage.
I will be the first to say marriage is difficult. If you don't believe me just look at the divorce rate. It's heart-breaking, but that shouldn’t discourage us rather encourage us to find what it takes to make it work. God didn’t design marriage so it can be freely thrown to the way-side. It was purposed to last a lifetime. We must realize we can’t make it last on our own; we must FULLY rely on God for power, strength, and wisdom that will allow us run this race with endurance.
Genesis 2:18-24 (NKJV) And the LORD God said, “It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him.” Out of the ground the LORD God formed every beast of the field and every bird of the air, and brought them to Adam to see what he would call them. And whatever Adam called each living creature that was its name. So Adam gave names to all cattle, to the birds of the air, and to every beast of the field. But for Adam there was not found a helper comparable to him. And the LORD God caused a deep sleep to fall on Adam, and he slept; and He took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh in its place. Then the rib which the LORD God had taken from man He made into a woman, and He brought her to the man. And Adam said: “This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.” Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.
The ultimate purpose of marriage is to REFLECT GOD’S IMAGE.
Marriage is a permanent promise, not a contract that is free to be broken.
Maybe you've heard someone say this, “We tried it and realized we're not “the one” for each other”? “The One”, in that sense, is not a biblical. The one you married is the one with whom you are to make a life.
Marriage is not about “I” or “Me” rather it’s about “We”
It’s just as, if not more, important to become the right person as find the right person.
Dave Boehi said this, “The person you love the most is also the person who can hurt you the deepest. That’s the risk and pain of marriage. And the beauty of marriage is working through you hurt and pain and resolving you conflicts and solving problems. “
Difficulties and hardship whether from personalities or problems can direct us to think we married the wrong person. Maybe today you’re thinking that, if so I’d like you to read what Zig Ziglar said; I have no way of knowing whether or not you married the wrong person, but I do know that many people have a lot of wrong ideas about marriage and what it takes to make marriage happy and successful. I’ll be the first to admit that it’s possible you did marry the wrong person. However, if you treat the wrong person like the right person, you could well end up having married the right person after all. On the other hand, if you married the right person, and treat that person wrong, you certainly will have ended up marrying the wrong person. I also know that it is far more important to be the right KIND of person than it is to marry the right person. In short, whether you married the right or wrong person is primarily up to you.”
Friend, I don’t know where your marriage stands today, but regardless if you are on top of the mountain basking in the sunshine or sitting in the bottom of the valley hopeless, God is with you. Your marriage is purposed to last a lifetime. Ground yourself in God's Word - The Truth. Don't give up.
Holy Father, I come before you today asking for forgiveness for the times I take so lightly the promise I made to my husband before You. Please help me to become the wife that You created me to be and help me to remember that marriage isn’t about me, rather we; my husband and I. Thank you for Your Word that I have to use as my guide. In Jesus’ Name. Amen.